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| Tell me a Good Lie |
Ask no questions, and you will be told No Lies !!
Ever wondered, why people say little white lies? Its not that intent is bad of these people. But sometimes when the boundaries are crossed by others and questions after questions seem to the conversation route, many people resort to white lies.
Some say if a lie can save someone's feelings being hurt is not a lie. A classic example is when you greet friends , we always say , Hey you are looking awesome. Or You have lost so much weight etc etc. If an outsider looks at this conversation and the person getting compliments is not to be complemented with such comments will shake their head at the lie being told. But the achievement of getting someone's confidence up and getting a smile on the person's face is worth many such white lies. Even friends have boundaries and many times we adhere to these comments as the truth will only disrupt the relation.
Its weird but such is the make believe world we have all created and white lies have become the way of life.
We have somehow distant ourselves from the reality, everyone has a bubble of fantasy around their life and that has become our reality. We choose everything other than our parents in today's world. From finding networked friends, to succesful spouse, preferred list of companies to work with and do business with, to even get oneself designer babies and where one should live etc etc.
Has the white lies taken over our life indefinitely ? Seems to me that the new definition of Truth is what we want it to be not what it is.
Cosmetic surgeons are having a field day, as one is not happy with the facial features one is born with, or the body needs to be shaped as per one's liking. Every day looking in the mirror and appreciating the surgeons's creation is the truth for that person.
Our sexual orientation is such that my success depends on who i say to be. LGBT is fighting a battle to be recognised but then many closet gays don't ever want to own. But then why does anyone care about who one loves? Will the person be less a friend, or less a son or daughter or less a professional at work?
So what is the definition of truth? I fail to understand. I say what i have to say, if one does not like it too bad, but then with my family, friends and colleagues i choose my words as i don't want to hurt their feelings. We all in the end create our own definition of truth or lie. A truth if it can destroy someone's world is worst than a lie which can save someone.
But then there are certain boundaries which one cannot cross, respecting others and being honest to people is far more rewarding than creating illusion of love and care.
In marriage trust is what keeps the relationship alive. If one partner is cheating, then the partner should tell the spouse about this. Its not about hurting the other one but giving respect to the spouse and letting the partner decide whether they want to be in relationship with the person anymore. This goes for all relationships. But the classic and most common one is, if a person is a bad dresser and friends keep encouraging the person by giving compliments , it's only hurting the person in the long run. Its not that one should care about what people say, but then a joker can never be a leader. A joker is to laugh at. That's what it is.
Maybe if we own what we say, if we choose lie over truth, if we believe in lie as truth will destroy us, if we believe that we cannot be honest or say our feelings to someone, if we believe that life is good with our white lies then so be it.
What ever we believe in , is what we become. As long as we have the strength to live the lie, guess that will become oneway our truth.
As the saying goes, "Truth will set you free".
Some say if a lie can save someone's feelings being hurt is not a lie. A classic example is when you greet friends , we always say , Hey you are looking awesome. Or You have lost so much weight etc etc. If an outsider looks at this conversation and the person getting compliments is not to be complemented with such comments will shake their head at the lie being told. But the achievement of getting someone's confidence up and getting a smile on the person's face is worth many such white lies. Even friends have boundaries and many times we adhere to these comments as the truth will only disrupt the relation.
Its weird but such is the make believe world we have all created and white lies have become the way of life.
We have somehow distant ourselves from the reality, everyone has a bubble of fantasy around their life and that has become our reality. We choose everything other than our parents in today's world. From finding networked friends, to succesful spouse, preferred list of companies to work with and do business with, to even get oneself designer babies and where one should live etc etc.
Has the white lies taken over our life indefinitely ? Seems to me that the new definition of Truth is what we want it to be not what it is.
Cosmetic surgeons are having a field day, as one is not happy with the facial features one is born with, or the body needs to be shaped as per one's liking. Every day looking in the mirror and appreciating the surgeons's creation is the truth for that person.
Our sexual orientation is such that my success depends on who i say to be. LGBT is fighting a battle to be recognised but then many closet gays don't ever want to own. But then why does anyone care about who one loves? Will the person be less a friend, or less a son or daughter or less a professional at work?
So what is the definition of truth? I fail to understand. I say what i have to say, if one does not like it too bad, but then with my family, friends and colleagues i choose my words as i don't want to hurt their feelings. We all in the end create our own definition of truth or lie. A truth if it can destroy someone's world is worst than a lie which can save someone.
But then there are certain boundaries which one cannot cross, respecting others and being honest to people is far more rewarding than creating illusion of love and care.
In marriage trust is what keeps the relationship alive. If one partner is cheating, then the partner should tell the spouse about this. Its not about hurting the other one but giving respect to the spouse and letting the partner decide whether they want to be in relationship with the person anymore. This goes for all relationships. But the classic and most common one is, if a person is a bad dresser and friends keep encouraging the person by giving compliments , it's only hurting the person in the long run. Its not that one should care about what people say, but then a joker can never be a leader. A joker is to laugh at. That's what it is.
Maybe if we own what we say, if we choose lie over truth, if we believe in lie as truth will destroy us, if we believe that we cannot be honest or say our feelings to someone, if we believe that life is good with our white lies then so be it.
What ever we believe in , is what we become. As long as we have the strength to live the lie, guess that will become oneway our truth.
As the saying goes, "Truth will set you free".
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