Monday, 28 March 2016

Sometimes you Win, Sometimes you Learn


Life is the best story which anyone can live. No edit, no proof reading, a simple story in which we can be ourselves. Yet we think about how the ending of this story will be. We spend restless hours, each day, the moment passes away and we consume all our energy to make this story memorable. Well in the end did we live the life the way we wanted to? or did we keep building up the story in our mind while life happened?
Am i willing to accept whatever happens in my life? Or am i a control freak who would like life to be exactly the way i have it in my story.

'The key to Acceptance is Willingness' anonymous quote.

What is it that we accept without any doubts in our life? Its a question which can be asked in many different forms yet the answer eludes us. I am.... many aspects of life and if i am willing to accept who i am, not who i am asked to be or meant to be, all of a sudden life would be simple.
Sometimes the situation in our life is not meant to be understood but its meant to be accepted.

My Life story is my best seller. One day i simply accepted to live life as it happens. At times life teaches you the meaning of being yourself. Many plans were executed in my mind, while life had other plans for me. Maybe i call it my naive sense of belonging, that i never understood the signs, never thought of letting go but relentlessly pursued my unknown purpose. I spend numerous hours, days, years to follow my senseless purpose and then one fine day, i accepted i was wrong. All of a sudden when i stopped struggling is when gratitude entered and life happened.

I have always been a persistent , stubborn , aggressive person.
As rightly said by Michael Jordon " I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But i can't accept not trying again".
This is my life story, i am not scared of trying, not scared of failure or scared of anyone's perception about me but what i can't take is that i did not try.
Every story has ups and down, some teach us life lessons if we learn from our failures while some make us arrogant if we choose not to take risks but try situations which will be in our comfort zone. I would say i have been lucky that failures made me accept that i can be wrong, not once but many times over. Yet the resilience to succeed and be myself kept me moving towards what ever life had to offer.
I accepted long time ago that i am a workaholic , have no sense of balance when it came to my work. Left this strenuous work twice but somehow always came back. But this time i was clear that without balance between my personal and professional life, i will not be able to succeed as planned. Therefore i have my fingers crossed as life happens and hopefully my last acceptance of creating this balance will sail me through.
Somewhere i feel my meditation helps me to find this balance. I teach people how to still their mind and my tyst with destiny to learn and teach this is somehow helping me with my work. As i said one moment at time and yet i feel something missing. Somewhere the story is turning, i cannot see beyond the horizon, but i know if today was my last day i will not be doing what i am doing right now. Therefore after finding balance which i never did all my life with work and personal life as i believe that passion merges the boundaries and we live what drives us. Maybe i will do what the next chapter has in store for me.
A good story does not need a powerpoint presentation but the willingness to follow one's heart and intuition. They somehow know what you truly want to become.
Sometimes you win, Sometimes you learn!

Sunday, 13 March 2016

What on Earth Am I here for?

"The purpose of our lives is to be happy" his holiness Dalai Lama says it without a doubt.

We spend a lifetime to answer this one question. What is the purpose of my life? Some think its about the work which one does, while others feel its about what we can do for someone. And majority of people live their life without even coming close to the answer.
Imagine life, which is simple no strive for excellence or survival tactics used. Will this life be fruitful or will we find something missing? If i had such a life i would be in bliss and my purpose to be born is met with living a relaxed simple life. But then my purpose is not defined. I am not struggling in life, i am not moaning about how life has served me a hard deal and suddenly i am no more a victim and in my dreams i am not emerging as a hero fighting my woes to succeed. The story in my life has no ups and down and all of a sudden i am depressed as i have no meaning or purpose in life. 

So is my purpose in life to have a great story which i tell people or is it for my own sanity i need some story to build up? This thought is confusing me, if my soul purpose is to live a happy life; then my happiness quotient is the sum total of my struggles + achievements or is it living a simple life?

We categorise people with regards to their achievements and what motivates us about them. Someone who has made millions out of nothing, has a workforce of thousands, is an amazing entrepreneur to us. If someone has built a foundation to help people again we are in awe. But if someone is retired after working to a remote place and has done no struggle or helped anyone then history or us will never even know this person. So is this person's life meaningless? Majority of people live a life which none of us even know about. They live to work, raise a family, fight their own battles and stay in memory of there loved ones. 

To me i feel asking this question is like a self motivating exercise. Life being simple will lead to complacence and we will have no advancement for us in society. Till the time greed, envy, aggression, power etc don't come in equation, we cannot envisage a life worthwhile. Maybe our soul purpose in life is highlighting our struggles and coming out victorious. It’s evident in our DNA, we strive for excellence and love wars. We are the most destructive race and anything we touch; we aim to dominate and if dominance does not work we destroy. Our purpose is defined by our mindset and perceptions. If we find no purpose than to us life is meaningless and we will not care.

I remember when I started Soul Studio, I had a dream and purpose of teaching people meditation and help them transform their mindsets and perceptions. It was clear to me this was not a monetary dream but something which I wanted to do. This brought my conviction a purpose and till date I am happy in what I started. Some time back I went back to my old job of being an event manager as I wanted to get over the death of my lion king. Now if someone asks me what is the purpose of my this action; I can only say at this moment this action brings me happiness.

So if i ask, What is the purpose of my life? Probably i will agree with what his holiness says. My soul purpose in life is to live a happy life.


What is your purpose in life?