" Happiness is not something ready made. It come's from your own actions" beautifully said by His Holiness Dalai Lama.
My happy moments are scattered through my life. Its a tussle to segregate happy and sad moments. Somehow one always finds the other. Its strange one moment i am filled with laughter and the second i can feel tears running down my face. I am strange or we human's i should say have a strange affinity to sadness. Even in our happiest moments we find tears streaming down. I can never understand the science behind this. In our happiest and fits of laughter moments, we somehow cry. If one cries being extra happy then why do we feel awful and down in our moments of sadness? Why do we think our happiness is short lived?
Some how sadness always finds us without any purpose. Being happy is something which we all want and yet the feeling eludes many. Happiness is a state of mind, and i am sure not many of us understand what makes us happy. What gets the euphoria inside us, tears of joy and a smile which can light up the whole universe.
My happy quotients are many. At work i used to feel euphoric the moment i would be in office. To create an event is somehow an awesome feeling for me. My work always made me happy. Its not that i did not have stressful moments, they were plenty. Deadlines, late night work, no holidays, last minute changes, best plans going no where but still it was fun. So my happy quotient at work was FUN. My work was not regular day 9 to 5 job and every day in the morning my passion to create something unique and new made me feel ALIVE and that feeling made me have fun at work. As i look back i was happy doing the work i did for many years. Tears of joy found me many times at work but never once did i feel sad.
My baby, my black labrador - Simba is my one and only child. I am a paw mom. The day i got him home, he filled up my life with Unconditional love. To come home to a 38 kg big lab who is always jumping and cuddling to you is a treat after a hard days work. Somehow i never wanted to change his personality and therefore Simba is a spoilt baby of mine who i have never shouted at or ever hit to train him. He somehow is highly intelligent and can understand what i am talking to him. The only way he lets me be at home at peace is when i get back my first half hour is spend playing with him, no phone calls, no talking to any one else, nothing but my whole attention just to him. So we have an unconventional child who gives and takes unconditional love.
My teacher had told me many years ago to find happiness 'go within'. Its strange but the fact remains we can only be happy if we are at peace with who we are. It has taken me many years of "Journey within" to find myself. Each day has thousands of moments and each moment has a different feeling. The beauty of my moments is that in a day - 24 hours i can feel different emotions and somehow there has been peace even in the toughest of times i have faced.
I expect people to love and appreciate me just like i love and appreciate them. Expectations are a human condition and if i am born human i'am definitely having these traits. Therefore when people say don't expect anything from anyone to not to be disappointed. I am confused with this statement. We all expect from each other. This is how we all are brain wired, therefore i expect people to deliver as per their promise to me and i don't get disappointed but angry if a promise is not kept. So my happy quotient is not affected if some expectation is not met. Anger is another emotion which is emoted than having repressed emotion of sadness. Somehow communication i feel is a much better tool than assumption for my happy quotient to stay intact.
We all have different trigger points for our emotions. Each person has a different state of mind and each one deals with emotions in their own way. As a famous song lyrics ring in my ear " Don't worry, be Happy". We all find it in doses.
If i sum up what is happiness is to me.... all i can say is "You make me Smile"
My happy moments are scattered through my life. Its a tussle to segregate happy and sad moments. Somehow one always finds the other. Its strange one moment i am filled with laughter and the second i can feel tears running down my face. I am strange or we human's i should say have a strange affinity to sadness. Even in our happiest moments we find tears streaming down. I can never understand the science behind this. In our happiest and fits of laughter moments, we somehow cry. If one cries being extra happy then why do we feel awful and down in our moments of sadness? Why do we think our happiness is short lived?
Some how sadness always finds us without any purpose. Being happy is something which we all want and yet the feeling eludes many. Happiness is a state of mind, and i am sure not many of us understand what makes us happy. What gets the euphoria inside us, tears of joy and a smile which can light up the whole universe.
My happy quotients are many. At work i used to feel euphoric the moment i would be in office. To create an event is somehow an awesome feeling for me. My work always made me happy. Its not that i did not have stressful moments, they were plenty. Deadlines, late night work, no holidays, last minute changes, best plans going no where but still it was fun. So my happy quotient at work was FUN. My work was not regular day 9 to 5 job and every day in the morning my passion to create something unique and new made me feel ALIVE and that feeling made me have fun at work. As i look back i was happy doing the work i did for many years. Tears of joy found me many times at work but never once did i feel sad.
My baby, my black labrador - Simba is my one and only child. I am a paw mom. The day i got him home, he filled up my life with Unconditional love. To come home to a 38 kg big lab who is always jumping and cuddling to you is a treat after a hard days work. Somehow i never wanted to change his personality and therefore Simba is a spoilt baby of mine who i have never shouted at or ever hit to train him. He somehow is highly intelligent and can understand what i am talking to him. The only way he lets me be at home at peace is when i get back my first half hour is spend playing with him, no phone calls, no talking to any one else, nothing but my whole attention just to him. So we have an unconventional child who gives and takes unconditional love.
My teacher had told me many years ago to find happiness 'go within'. Its strange but the fact remains we can only be happy if we are at peace with who we are. It has taken me many years of "Journey within" to find myself. Each day has thousands of moments and each moment has a different feeling. The beauty of my moments is that in a day - 24 hours i can feel different emotions and somehow there has been peace even in the toughest of times i have faced.
I expect people to love and appreciate me just like i love and appreciate them. Expectations are a human condition and if i am born human i'am definitely having these traits. Therefore when people say don't expect anything from anyone to not to be disappointed. I am confused with this statement. We all expect from each other. This is how we all are brain wired, therefore i expect people to deliver as per their promise to me and i don't get disappointed but angry if a promise is not kept. So my happy quotient is not affected if some expectation is not met. Anger is another emotion which is emoted than having repressed emotion of sadness. Somehow communication i feel is a much better tool than assumption for my happy quotient to stay intact.
We all have different trigger points for our emotions. Each person has a different state of mind and each one deals with emotions in their own way. As a famous song lyrics ring in my ear " Don't worry, be Happy". We all find it in doses.
If i sum up what is happiness is to me.... all i can say is "You make me Smile"
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