Forgiveness _ I am Human, Born to make mistakes

"To err is human, to forgive Divine".

Is it really for us to bind anyone with our anger and hurt? Am i a better human, if i learn to forgive? And exactly , who am I, to even tell a person i forgive you?

Is my forgiveness going to make the other person repent? or treat me better? What is such a big deal about forgiveness. I have been struggling to find answer to the questions and till date what has come back to me is in simple crisp words : I am human, born to make mistakes. So who is forgiving me for my actions and who am i forgiving for their reactions or actions?

Now the question which comes to my mind is, in the eyes of God there is nothing right or wrong. So what forgiveness can we ask the universal consciousness who believes everything is right and every action has a predestined purpose.

Spirituality is confusing, plays with our mind and eventually we, who come from nothing, go back being nothing. The whole tryst is while we live, we need to live by the rules of the society. Its inbuilt in us, the right and wrong. Ethics, character, upbringing, culture etc etc... wow heavy words, wonder we don't weigh down by just listening to them. But hold on, this is what makes us the good human beings. Abiding by each and every rule and asking for forgiveness if we break any one of them.

Yet we human's expect apology and want to boost our ego by saying the magic words " I forgive you" or act like slaves and ask "Please forgive me"

Forgiveness! music to my ears, it can make lives and it can break homes. In today's fast paced lifestyle, people are changing. You see more promiscuous people than they were a decade ago. It's not that they have just emerged, but by changing lifestyles and active social platforms, now you see more than there were before.

"Sorry" the most abused word of today's lifestyle. 

"I am sorry, it won't happen again. Please forgive me." This is todays mantra. Many people let go for small things. But when you need to let go and forgive someone for a major mistake, thats when you suddenly realise that we don't have it in us to forgive. We all have distinct character and we all strive to be who we are eventually. Truth and trust is something which comes in small doses. It a refection of what we believe in. My truth can be your lie too. But people don't see it that way. When it comes to forgiveness then there seems to be only one absolute truth and one absolute lie. What happens to all the white lies, which again have become our lifestyle and we all indulge in them. What happens to shades of grey in truth, which are very good argument and discussion points , as reminded by many while losing and not getting forgiveness. At that time, the heart is aching and we only see the absolute lie disguised as absolute truth.

There is a forgiveness meditation which i teach. It helps us to forgive ourselves first, then anyone who has knowingly or unknowingly hurt us and then we ask for forgiveness from any who we have knowingly or unknowingly hurt. This meditation sets us free from the baggage which we seem to be carrying. In this meditation, the intent is to forgive ourselves from our mindset and accept what has happened in our life knowingly and unknowingly. Our life is the sum total of what we feel. And many times we keep feelings hidden deep down in our sub conscious mind and it keeps emerging somehow somewhere and we keep repressing our feelings and make same mistakes again n again till we don't learn to let go.

So i ask again : Who am i, to forgive anyone other than myself? 

I am only Human, born to make mistakes and i forgive myself.